We could all use a daily reminder that criticizing others is a terrible habit – one that we should be aware of enough to grab it by the reigns.
After all, judging others is a reflection of who we are, and what we’re unhappy with.
Finding yourself in a sphere of judging others could mean it’s time to take a look at yourself, more than those around you.
Negative Components to Criticism
Criticism causes misunderstanding
Think about it. Every time you criticize someone, it puts them on the defense. On the reverse, whenever you are criticized, you’re set up to be put on the defense too.
Those who have not learned to suspend judgement and curb their criticisms create an unwarranted negative atmosphere, and who wants to be responsible for creating that
Criticism can lead to anger
This seems obvious, but it’s not noticed or thought of in our society as often as it ought to be.
If criticizing someone can lead to misunderstanding, think of all the negative emotions that brew within misunderstanding over time… anger, resentment, and frustration are just a few.
Criticism is destructive
You’ve heard of the term constructive criticism, right?
This isn’t really a thing.
All criticism is destructive. To call any criticism constructive is just wishful thinking. Criticisms serve to evoke change in someone through a harsh opinion of their work, their looks, their habits, etc.
“Then how do I let someone know what they could be doing better?”
How to Give Criticism that Doesn’t Hurt – As Much
We understand that there will be times in your life when it is expected of you to give criticism – to coworkers and peers alike.
So here is how to do it the right way.
Pepper in what they are already doing right, and then let them know where they could improve. There’s a name for this method; it’s called the Feedback Sandwich.
Let us elaborate: First, place emphasis on their strengths. Follow it with the negative (destructive, or “constructive” part – yes we’re rolling our eyes), and then reiterate your positive thoughts at the end.
See the sandwich? Two positive parts sandwiching a negative.
We know it sounds easier than it is, but at least it will sting a bit less.
Be careful with your words, and always remember, “The more one judges, the less one loves.”
– Honore de Balzac